Enriching Your Gifted Child’s Life by Building Memories
Much of the discussion surrounding gifted parenting often
revolves around education but even for the gifted child there is a world of
opportunity beyond the classroom walls. Building memories through shared
experiences can be the most enriching and rewarding part of your child’s life
and an undeniable boost to meeting their social and emotional needs.
Summertime and holidays are the perfect time to build
memories with your child … exploring their passions, experiencing nature,
spending quality time discovering each other beyond the day-to-day routines of
school days and enjoying life together.
Dr. Dan Peters
In a recent article, Dr. Dan Peters, co-author of RaisingCreative Kids, reminds us:
Remember, summer break is an opportunity for so many
different experiences -- from creating and building, doing art, going on hikes,
reading, exploring new places, taking classes, day and overnight camp, family
adventures and more. While it is our job as parents to plan for your child's summer,
it is also important to include them in the process. After all it is their
summer. You might be surprised to learn what they have in mind.
One of the beauties of making memories is that it doesn't
have to cost a lot of money and mostly requires only time. Yes, time is a
precious commodity these days but you will never regret spending it with your
child. Memories come in all shapes and sizes. They may involve an epic
adventure to a faraway land or a simple backyard picnic. The important part is planning
it together!
Backyard Picnic Table*
Research has shown that as we age, we remember less and less
of childhood memories; especially those of our earliest years. From What’s YourEarliest Memory? we learn:
“Young children tend to forget events more rapidly than
adults because they lack the strong neural processes required to bring together
all the pieces of information that go into a complex autobiographical memory.”
One way of
ensuring that memories are not forgotten is to take the time to record your
experiences. For younger children, this can involve creating a story. This can be accomplished through the use of diaries,
journals, blogging, photos and videos.
Jon
Hamilton in an article for NPR, The Forgotten Childhood: Why Early Memories Fade
suggests:
Another powerful determinant of whether an early memory
sticks is whether a child fashions it into a good story, with a time and place
and a coherent sequence of events, Peterson says." Those are the kinds of
memories that are going to last," she says.
Hamilton goes on to write:
And it turns out parents play a big role in what a
child remembers, Peterson says. Research shows that when a parent helps a
child give shape and structure and context to a memory, it's less likely to
fade away.
An effective way I found to create long-lasting
memories with my children was in the kitchen learning to cook favorite family
recipes. Not only did we enjoy our time together but they learned to make dishes
that could be recreated throughout their lives.
Children in the Kitchen**
Memories become a remembrance of us when we are gone. I
can’t think of a better legacy than to have built memories with my children that
they will carry with them when I am no longer around. So do something special with your child and start building those memories today!
Special thanks to Gifted Homeschoolers Forum for including this post in their July Bloghop. To view more blogs in this month's tour, please click on the logo below!
* Photos courtesy of Pixabay (Public Domain)
** Photo courtesy of morgueFile (Public Domain)
I love the idea of making memory stories with the kids about special events. I know my blogging and pictures has helped, but you've inspired me to have them get involved in the process, too!
ReplyDeleteThank you theYoungerMrsWarde ... please be sure to let us know how your future endeavors turn out!
DeleteI love the point about letting the kids be included in the planning. I get so excited about making the plans that I forget to let them help, too. " After all it is their summer. You might be surprised to learn what they have in mind." Love this.
ReplyDeleteNicole ... hope you have a wonderful summer with your children. Try having a family meeting whenever you are making plans; get ideas from everyone. Enjoy!
DeleteSo many great ideas! And it looks like so much fun.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading the post and kind comments.
DeleteThank you for your caring perspective.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jade, for the kind remarks!
DeleteChildhood memories of happy times are so important for children and will probably also be the memories that remain vivid in extreme old age when the previous minute fades quickly. What better gift could a parent give than helping to create and store happy memories?
ReplyDeleteExactly. As our children are 20-something now, we are already seeing the benefits of memories created when they were younger. They learned important life skills as well.
DeleteI keep realizing summer's almost half over and between work and camps, we haven't had enough down time. I'm hoping August will be calmer.
ReplyDeleteSummer is often a time left to camps and summertime activities, but thankfully memories can be made all year round! Enjoy what's left of summer!
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